The change in Relationship status

I am sure you must be thinking of love, alliance, marriage and not being single. No, what I wish to share is the side affects of these. Many movies and serials have already been made and lot of gyaann been given: so you must be wondering what's new with me that  I wish to share. Did you notice all the change that comes about in the relation of parents and their child. Specifically it is shown that children stop taking care of their parents, they are forced to move to old age homes or cry their lives out.

But thats not what I wish to share. What I want discuss is the change that comes about in the relationship of siblings after marriage. Two small kids who used to share their chocolate, ice-cream and cycle(1 turn for each) suddenly or gradually become not so important for each other.They now love to share things with their partner; of course thats important  but in attempt of adjusting to new people and new relationship are you leaving so many people and relationships behind.

The problem is common with guys and girls both. The girls just go mad after getting engaged or after they get into a relationship. His calls, his likes his habits and his family become hers. Of course he and his family should be given prime importance but that does not mean your family, your siblings should be left far behind. One of my friends after getting engaged started behaving in a weird manner. She waited all day for his call and after his office hours did not attend to any call other than his. On the marriage day, she literally shouted at her younger brother for not getting a lime-soda and instead a cold-drink for her newly wedded husband and the small boy almost turned to tears.

The things started there. After few months on one of her trips to her parents place she again behaved very rudely with her cousin sister only because she missed  buying her husband's favourite flavour of ice cream. Furthermore her younger brother requested for a family trip and asked her to stay, but she rejected the plan straight away saying that it would be difficult for her husband to manage things without her. Next weekend she called me up and said her husband was out with his friends and she was getting bored, so she had called me. Thanks to her.

Lets see the guys side. In many cases the same happens to them. Their families(wife & children) are the  only ones that are  important. Their parents, their siblings almost hold no value. They don't have time for anyone else.Their wives decide  not only their dinner menu but also their clothes and their vacations. Furthermore money comes in.The gifts exchanged between their siblings are first checked for their price tags.The give and take should be equal. Hence  it is not a surprise that many of these sibling relationship that started with sharing one ice-cream end up in court rooms.

Wake up guys.  Your alliance is addition. That does not mean you would subtract the old relationships. In a hurry to give importance to your new family don't forget the old one. They are the ones with whom you spent almost 28-30 years of your life: those parents  who waited for you every evening with a cup of hot tea/coffee or your younger brother or sister who waited for you to return so that you help him/her with project or solve a latest issue between him and his girlfriend or vice-versa.

Every relation is precious. Preserve it.